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Live, Laugh, Laugh, Love, Love, Love!
Think about the times you were most in love. Think about how you kissed as much as you laughed with that person. Think about how often you were naked and carefree and just laying around doing nothing with that person. Think about the smiles, the comfortable silence, the casual pinky holding, or the feet laid across their lap. Think about how you loved spending time with them more than spending money. Love was never the problem. Relationships were never the problem. Commitment and fidelity and honesty were PERKS of loving someone so much that all other people stood no chance of tempting you. Think about how your happiness only depended…
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Just Love
What’s my love language? It’s love. That’s it… just love. You can give me words of affirmation. But if they’re dishonest or insincere or manipulative, I’d rather you just not say anything. And they don’t even have to be affirming. You can tell me I got the best spot in the Costco parking lot and then look at me with a little smile, so I know that you don’t mean it as a compliment, but you know that I’m totally going to take it as one, so then we both smirk because we love those little pokes between us. If you’re giving me a hard time, and it comes from…
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Be a Bad Date
Imagine being such a terrible person that you’re good at dating. Imagine having such boring views that you can tell them to any number of dozens of people and have them be accepted without a postscript explanation. Imagine having such a mundane backstory that you can describe it to your dinner date, in public, without vulgarity, and not have to really… really… really emphasize that you’re not damaged and not insane and not a guacamole loving red flag! Imagine thinking that dating leads to marriage when they’re actually exact opposites. Successful relationships come from commitment. They come from teamwork. They come from two people wanting the same things and working…
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Happy Baby-Mama’s Day!
I’ve hated my ex-wife many times. I’d still do anything for her. I’ve cussed her name and been angry at seeing her caller ID on my phone. I still answer though… when it’s her. I’ve fought with her in person, over the phone, across a courtroom, and even in my head when she was nowhere around. I still want the best for her, I still support her, I still send her money, and I still care to repair that relationship every time it is strained. You see, my ex-wife raised my kids. My ex-wife brought two babies into this world who have my last name. My ex-wife nursed and brushed…
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Just Love People
Telling someone to love themselves is pretty shitty. Telling someone to work on themselves is mean. Telling someone to make changes, alter how they eat, exercise more, look a certain way, or believe in themselves more is pretty fucking rude. Like how in the hell do you know what someone needs more than they do? Why are the things you did more important than the things they’re doing? What kind of insecure prick wants everyone around them to be doing the exact same things so they don’t feel like the incorrect one? And why didn’t you bother to find out what they want to do, why they’re being different, or…
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You Can Find Better
If you’re wondering if you can find better, you can. You can find someone prettier than who you’re with. You can find someone younger. You can find someone thinner. You can find someone with deeper blue eyes, a higher sex drive, and a better personality. If that’s not your thing, you can find someone who likes comic books, who loves alcoholics, or who doesn’t mind paying the bills while you play video games. That person is out there. And someone better than her is out there. And someone better than her is out there. Keep looking. You’ll keep finding better and better during each search. But what is it that…
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Explain It To Me
I don’t freakin’ get it. Why would anyone be afraid of getting a broken heart? Why would anyone be scared of being vulnerable? Why would anyone be worried about being taken advantage of? So what if those things happen. So what if it all ends and you walk away the better and more noble person for acting how you felt like acting. So what if you came to the table with an open heart, an honest want, and a trusting soul only to be let down. At least you engaged those items in yourself. At least you got to practice how other people want to be. At least you saw…
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Be Beautiful
Even if I have the wrong ways of showing it, I want the best for every single person I’ve ever encountered. I want you all to be good people. I want you all to live good lives. I want you all to feel the rush of accomplishment and the comfort of being loved by someone. I want everyone to scratch things off their to-do lists. I want everyone to pause in admiration of beautiful landscapes, beautiful people, and beautiful situations. And, I want everyone to turn the frustrations and face-plants that come before those successes into fuel. We may differ in views. We may differ in practices. We may differ…
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Your Rights, My Flag
You have the right to disrespect The Flag. You have the right to be unpatriotic. You have the right to criticize our country, our government, or even our way of life. And even though I don’t have the right to spit in your face while you do those things, the thought will probably cross my mind. You also have the right to go home after a day of protest and sleep in a building that will not be allowed to burn to the ground. You get to walk down streets that do not have animal feces, rotting waste, or burned out cars on them. And if you so desire, you…
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Table for One
The benefit of being single is not dating, not partying, not waking up with a hangover, and not waking up next to someone that you don’t love. The benefit of being single is not having to listen to a second, unsolicited, opinion about your choices or schedule. The benefit of being single is that your time is all yours. You can spend it however you want without offending anyone or feeling pressured to meet their expectations. The benefit of being single is that you can work on your own skills or wants without having to be considerate of anyone else. I love relationships. I love being in one. And I…
