Just Love People

Telling someone to love themselves is pretty shitty. Telling someone to work on themselves is mean. Telling someone to make changes, alter how they eat, exercise more, look a certain way, or believe in themselves more is pretty fucking rude. Like how in the hell do you know what someone needs more than they do? Why are the things you did more important than the things they’re doing? What kind of insecure prick wants everyone around them to be doing the exact same things so they don’t feel like the incorrect one? And why didn’t you bother to find out what they want to do, why they’re being different, or what caused them to lose their motivation or self-love in the first place? Besides, who deemed self-love more important than other love and where can I find them to kick them in the shins?

Love someone whether they love themselves or not. Love someone whether you love yourself or not. Love someone whether they return the gesture or not. Work on improving others whether they work on improving themselves or not. Change how you interact with them, eat with them, go for a long walk with them, dress up with them, dress down with them, and believe in them whether they think they deserve it or not. Because you telling them to do it themselves confirms their suspicions that they don’t deserve love… even from themselves.

You don’t know a fucking thing about other people’s lives. You don’t know what their childhood was like. You don’t know how much responsibility or how many burdens they carry. You don’t know what causes them stress or insomnia, but I guarantee you they have both. You don’t know why they cry or why they love or why they think they don’t do enough of, or too much of, either. You don’t get to put one more thing in their pack as your condition for caring about them wholeheartedly. You don’t get to decide what they should be doing unless you’ve sat there and held their hand and wrapped an arm around them and relieved some of their anxiety or loneliness.

Just love people. Blankly, simply, temporarily, unconditionally, smilingly, enthusiastically, calmly, wrongly, or secretly. It doesn’t matter what their love is for you or themselves. It matters that they see that insufficiency not matter.