Live, Laugh, Laugh, Love, Love, Love!

Think about the times you were most in love. Think about how you kissed as much as you laughed with that person. Think about how often you were naked and carefree and just laying around doing nothing with that person. Think about the smiles, the comfortable silence, the casual pinky holding, or the feet laid across their lap. Think about how you loved spending time with them more than spending money.

Love was never the problem. Relationships were never the problem. Commitment and fidelity and honesty were PERKS of loving someone so much that all other people stood no chance of tempting you. Think about how your happiness only depended on having time alone with that intriguing soul.

It’s good to be in love. It’s healthy to want someone. It’s satisfying to know one person absorbs all of your free time and you wouldn’t have it any other way.

That kind of love didn’t go away because of social media. That kind of love didn’t stop existing because of your divorce. That kind of love doesn’t evade you now because of some outer forces. It’s only gone because you’ve let it be that way. You’ve gotten too busy. You’ve lost your own passion for love. You’ve made excuses and you’ve built walls and you’ve settled for giving less because it guarantees more. And you’ve opted for security over all else. You’ve stolen your own happiness, it didn’t leave with someone else when they stopped being the car DJ of your life’s road trips.

Find love again. Want love again. Give love again. Fucking stop settling and accepting and making exceptions for mediocrity. You know you’d rather lay on one chest all weekend binge watching “Grey’s Anatomy” than serial date 7 people who all have the same backstory and same interests and same date plans.

Disregard everyone who isn’t in it for love. Spend no time with the people who aren’t here for happily ever after. Give all of your time to one person who wants to reciprocate and if that fails, do it again the next time because commitment is not the problem. Uncertainty is. Be certain that you want to be more happy, more funny, more excited, more kissed, more comfortable, and more loved than you’ve ever been.

Love holding people, and yourself, to a higher bar knowing that’s the only way you’ll get back to the love you once loved having.